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Saturday, 9 May 2020
LESSONS FROM A MOVIE, COURAGE TO LOVE.(Part Two) By Felix Nyerhovwo Jarikre.
From Jeremiah 17:9, the heart of man was deceitful and desperately wicked because he allowed his heart to be oppressed by the physical environment. The deceit and desperate wickedness of man's heart came because his heart was enslaved and afflicted by the hostile physical environment.
Since man was overthrown back in the Garden of Eden, his physical environment had no consideration whatsoever for how the man felt. It could be cruel and callous, leaving the man panic-stricken and anxious. Indeed the man felt powerless against the vagaries of his physical environment.
If he was not caught in the throes of perplexity by the warning of hurricane that could destroy the house he managed to build for shelter, he was facing the dire prospect of strange pests destroying his crops without remedy. If he was able to survive a famine, he wasn't spared the attack of disease that snatched away his son or wife through death. If prosperity smiled on him, his bounty was eyed by merciless robbers.
Weakened and vulnerable, he was uncomfortable that his life was laced with uncertainty. Was there a meaning to his precarious existence other than having to adjust to anxiety and fear as lifetime companions?
Faced with scarce resources like water and land, strong men emerged through wars and plunder to seize the rich, productive lands for themselves. The men without bravery or smarts, or others who were too weakened and handicapped to engage a fight were abandoned to scrounge their way through poverty. Not to starve to death, many were forced to hire themselves out for bread under the callous mastership of strong men.
Truly, there's a meaning to man's existence. His life need not be precarious. And it's certainly not compulsory that he should embrace anxiety and fear as even temporary companions. And yes, he need not feel powerless before the hostility of his physical environment.
As I have written before, ancient Israel was enslaved by the Pharaoh of Egypt to demonstrate that man was a slave of his physical environment. Having rejected the authority of truth, his slavery to his physical environment was inevitable. Pharaoh represented Satan who ruled the physical environment. Just as the cult of the globalists ruling the world today represents man's adversary.
To be continued.
LESSONS FROM A MOVIE, COURAGE TO LOVE! By Felix Nyerhovwo Jarikre.
Yesterday, I stumbled upon a movie on YouTube starred by Vanessa Williams, ex-Miss America beauty queen. It was titled, Courage To Love.
Vanessa Williams's character played the smart, intelligent but inquisitive daughter of a beautiful black mother, played by late Dianne Caroll. The mother was the long-standing mistress of a white man played by Stacey Keach.
The white man provided well for his black mistress. The two daughters she bore for him were not excluded from his generosity. They lived in a big beautiful house. The Ms Williams' character was being prepared well to marry a certain rich young white male.
The setting of the movie was New Orleans in an era when the city was more of a French-speaking territory than American. The black citizens were maltreated as no better than slaves. They were expected to know their place. To remain obsequious. And not create waves.
In this society of that era, we saw white men from France, with their idea of egalitarianism, having open affairs with black women who gave birth to mixed breed children i.e. creating a relatively affluent and educated Creole class.
In the midst of all this, we saw Ms Williams' character treating people, black and white, with compassion and respect. Through a Catholic church mission, she secretly taught black children to read and write. And activity that was considered criminal. As it was illegal to teach black children to read and write. (Black children here meant children without a white father)
So she became marked as a troublemaker when she was discovered in a classroom teaching some black children how to read and write. But she was protected by her background as a Creole. As they could do nothing to her.
Not long into the movie, it was discovered that Ms williams' father had married a white woman. When he was confronted by her mother, his weak defence was that he needed to have ' legitimate' children also! Her mother was not pacified. She threw the father of her children out of their home. But this Creole mistress was not able to recover from the betrayal of her man whom she had loved and raised well-bred children for without any sense of trouble in her paradise. She went insane, and was admitted into an asylum.
As she, Ms Williams' character was trying to move on with her life, she learned that one of her black female students, a twelve year old, was raped by a prominent white citizen. The black father of the violated child was enraged but felt impotent to avenge the injustice. The rapist was his master whom he had diligently served. His faith faltered. He was convinced the ' the Christianity and God' preached by Ms Williams had failed him! Incensed, she courageously went to the house of the rapist, and confronted him with the violation in the presence of the man's wife and guests. As she was going out to fearlessly confront the rapist, her white boyfriend, a medical doctor from France, gently and fearfully pleaded for her caution in these words: ' Don't make it worse' That phrase struck my attention. Because it was exactly the same phrase she used to restrain the father of the twelve-year-old from killing the rapist in raw anger: ' Don't make it worse'
This phrase was eloquently raw in the sense of the realization of all concerned that justice was not going to be served in that society for the violation of the young child.
As far as the scornful rapist was concerned, this girl child was a sub-human, a thing, a mere property to be raped, impregnated and even discarded.
Before that painful scene, I silently wondered what would have happened if the father of the sexually violated child had given vent to his inner revolt and gone ahead to kill the rapist. The authorities certainly would have framed the black man for the murder of an 'innocent prominent' white citizen, and sentenced him to die by hanging!
So I asked myself again: supposing the black man had privately studied the Bible under the teaching ministry of the Holy Ghost, and acquired the knowledge of the truth for himself, would his story be different?
The trajectory of his story would have been different, even though his knowledge wouldn't have prevented him from facing tribulations.
By the way, before the movie ended, a mysterious plague in the family of COVID-19 swept through the city, and one of its prominent victims was the rapist of the twelve-year-old. His life ended on a hospital bed on a very miserable note.
So that we ourselves glory in you in the churches of God for your patience and faith in all your persecutions and tribulations that ye endure: Which is a manifest token of the righteous judgment of God, that ye may be counted worthy of the kingdom of God, for which ye also suffer: Seeing it is a righteous thing with God to recompense tribulation to them that trouble you;
2 Thessalonians 1:4-6
To be continued.
FAULT LINES OF SELF-ANALYSIS By Felix Nyerhovwo Jarikre.
Man does not struggle to be evil. He struggles to be good. His self-analysis can only amplify his fault lines, and leave him feeling helpless and hopeless. To overcome his sense of inadequacy, he will become manipulative and grasping as he relates to others. In this process, his authenticity as a person becomes the first casualty.
A writer like Tim Lahaye will quarrel with my position. But of what help does it make for someone to realise whether he is phlegmatic, extroverted or introverted? The prospect is dubious.
Most times, in desperation, as a self-defense mechanism, we invent a bogeyman to blame for our misfortunes, lack of progress, our distress and disappointments. In short, a religious industrial complex had sprang up to cater for man's predilection to look for scapegoats to carry his blames.
And there are priests on this altar of falsehood ready to minister to our willingness to abdicate responsibility for our lives, as we look for others to blame. They tell you the reason you are not progressing in life can be traced directly to your father-in-law's witchcraft. That he had sworn in their coven for your wife to progress and prosper faster and better than you so that she can dominate you. So every day, you glower at your wife in silent hostility and frustration. You are trapped...
They tell you the reason you crash at the edge of success is because of angry ancestral spirits who are concerted that nothing good should come from your lineage. They suggest the remedy is for you to take some priests to your village to do family liberation/cleansing rituals on your behalf...
They tell you the wasting disease you are wrestling with, and draining your money can be traced to familiar spirits of your father's house. That they had sworn for you to go to your grave in misery and shame...
The list goes on endlessly!
KEY TO FREEDOM: KNOW YOURSELF, OR KNOW THE TRUTH? By Felix Nyerhovwo Jarikre
Socrates said: 'Man, know thyself.'
Since then, philosophers, neuroscientists, motivational speakers etc have embarked on a long exhaustive journey of exhortation to cajole men and women everywhere to know themselves. Another word for this quest is called self-discovery.
The proposition is that you must know or discover yourself before you can master yourself and your environment. Sounds enticing, doesn't it? Yes.
But when you think about it, it's a quest of futility and self-conceit.
That has not stopped men and women everywhere from attempting to discover what stuff their characters are made of. They are eager to discover what they are capable of. How to maximize their potentials is a favourite topic. Learning and getting in tune with their passions is an adventure they refuse to disdain. If they don't find out what they are afraid of, how can they summon the courage from the ether to march forward and destroy their fears?
They must find out in minute details their likes, their loves, what their sexual preferences are, not excluding their sexual proclivities.
What are the ingredients necessary to drive their ambitions to the point of fulfilment. They are told what must be done to self-actualize.
Having to undertake a personal SWOT analysis (your strengths, weaknesses, opportunities and threats) cannot be sneered at! It comes highly recommended. After all, Socrates decreed: 'Man, know thyself.' Sigmund Freud made it fashionable in the name of psychoanalysis.
Self-analysis is in! Even some of your pastors in the name of emotional intelligence have told you that you can't neglect self-analysis. How dare anyone to rebuke the concept of self-knowledge?
Now let's come to brass tack. Is there anywhere in the New Testament where Christ commanded His followers to KNOW themselves? NONE !
He asserted that with your knowledge of the truth, your freedom cannot be revoked.
In John 8:32, He says: And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.
For you to escape enslavement or limitations, you must learn the truth. For you to escape oppression and being dominated by another man, your resolve to learn the truth cannot be questioned.
When you have knowledge of the truth, you are automatically released from being coerced or constrained in choice and actions.
When you have learned the truth, your liberation from slavery or restraint by the power of another man is inevitable.
Clearly, Christ never suggested or counseled His followers to embark on any self-analysis. It's unprofitable and deceitful to self- analyse yourself. Rather He commanded His followers to concentrate their efforts in pursuing the knowledge of the truth. That way, they can come into the sort of freedom that cannot be revoked or squashed by another man or power.
Knowing yourself is never an antidote against victimization from another person. Yet when you know the truth, you can easily smash victimization from another man.
The harsh reality is that it is futile trying to know yourself as the heart of man is defaulted on the position of desperate wickedness. The heart of man is a cauldron of unmitigated evil.
Jeremiah 17:9 says: The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: WHO CAN KNOW IT?
No man can know the depth of the deceit and desperate wickedness of his heart...
Friday, 17 April 2020
HAVE NIGERIAN CHURCHES CRASHED BEFORE COVID-19?
HAVE NIGERIAN CHURCHES CRASHED BEFORE COVID-19?
By Felix Nyerhovwo Jarikre.
My view is not a popular one. Nigerian churches went down without a fight. I don't see them recovering from their misstep. Nigerian churches squandered their moral capital the moment they allowed their doors to be shut by the government due to the fear of COVID-19. Worse, they never took a leadership role in their decision to shut their doors, preventing their followers from meeting on days of fellowship.
Admittedly, COVID-19 is a frightening pandemic. Many deaths across countries have been traced to it. Some countries are in a race to develop vaccine to combat COVID-19. Experts have told us the disease is more threatening in a person whose immune system has weakened or broken down.
We should also not be fast to forget that the pandemic is surrounded by all sorts of misinformation, conspiracy theories and bullying, both intellectual and political. In this sinister atmosphere, is it villainous or wrong to exercise some healthy scepticism?
Theologically and traditionally, Nigerian churches had always boasted they were not set apart to partake of any pandemic. In their preachings and prayers, they held forth the idea they could never be victimized by any disease or plague. In their teachings and proclamations, Nigerian churches insisted that they enjoyed divine immunity against any disease. When the push came to shove, why couldn't they show the courage of convictions?
By shutting their doors without any resistance to government's order, Nigerian churches showed they lacked the spine to stand and fight for their convictions. Most importantly, they revealed clearly they had not been operating from the place of good conscience.
After all, contradicting the New Testament, many church leaders had brazenly sold the idea their church buildings were SANCTIFIED BY FAITH AS PLACES OF WORSHIP!! In other words, that the only place their followers could meet and serve God was a physical church building on Sunday. There, inside the church building, angels were rapidly released to supply the miracles of everyone in need!
It never occurred to them to recant from the treachery of this idea.
Now that they were forced by government to shut down their church buildings, and keep social distancing, it is expected that Nigerian church leaders should have vigorously protested on the basis that the health, prosperity and success of their followers would be extremely jeopardized without gathering to WORSHIP GOD in their SANCTIFIED church buildings and altars. Haven't they always cajoled church attendees to roll on altars at the close of service for angels to minister miracles to the humble ones?
Have they not made a habit of placing a lone chair by the altar where the impression is sold that anyone who come forward to drop some cash before touching the chair would receive a fast miracle from the invisible angel sitting on the lone chair?
In a time like this, one expected our erstwhile vociferous church leaders to show up their faces in courageous leadership, but instead they buckled and fled into hiding.
True to his convictions as a 'healing minister', Pastor Chris Oyakhilome kicked, but his fellow senior colleagues, concerted by Pastor Sam Adeyemi, threw him under the bus. No sir, Pastor Chris Oyakhilome wasn't 'PANDERING TO FEAR'. He had the courage to question a lockdown that his fellow pastors cravenly acquiesced to. Clearly, many Nigerian Christian leaders LACKED GOOD CONSCIENCE.
To save face, the church leaders latched unto Isaiah 26:20 which they massively circulated on social media:
Come, my people, enter thou into thy chambers, and shut thy doors about thee: hide thyself as it were for a little moment, until the indignation be overpast.
Nothing can be more blasphemous, seditious and speculative than for a New Testament church to take refuge in Isaiah 26:20.
How can you tell a believer whose CONSCIENCE was PURGED by the blood of Christ in order to RECEIVE the ETERNAL INHERITANCE to HIDE from INDIGNATION?
How can you tell a believer whose CONSCIENCE was already PERFECTED and SANCTIFIED to flee in terror from an unseen adversary called COVID-19?
When your fear toward God is taught by the precepts of W.H.O., the exposure of your hypocrisy is inevitable.
Our church leaders should have kept quiet, covered their faces in shame, and wept a little to show some remorse.
By Felix Nyerhovwo Jarikre.
My view is not a popular one. Nigerian churches went down without a fight. I don't see them recovering from their misstep. Nigerian churches squandered their moral capital the moment they allowed their doors to be shut by the government due to the fear of COVID-19. Worse, they never took a leadership role in their decision to shut their doors, preventing their followers from meeting on days of fellowship.
Admittedly, COVID-19 is a frightening pandemic. Many deaths across countries have been traced to it. Some countries are in a race to develop vaccine to combat COVID-19. Experts have told us the disease is more threatening in a person whose immune system has weakened or broken down.
We should also not be fast to forget that the pandemic is surrounded by all sorts of misinformation, conspiracy theories and bullying, both intellectual and political. In this sinister atmosphere, is it villainous or wrong to exercise some healthy scepticism?
Theologically and traditionally, Nigerian churches had always boasted they were not set apart to partake of any pandemic. In their preachings and prayers, they held forth the idea they could never be victimized by any disease or plague. In their teachings and proclamations, Nigerian churches insisted that they enjoyed divine immunity against any disease. When the push came to shove, why couldn't they show the courage of convictions?
By shutting their doors without any resistance to government's order, Nigerian churches showed they lacked the spine to stand and fight for their convictions. Most importantly, they revealed clearly they had not been operating from the place of good conscience.
After all, contradicting the New Testament, many church leaders had brazenly sold the idea their church buildings were SANCTIFIED BY FAITH AS PLACES OF WORSHIP!! In other words, that the only place their followers could meet and serve God was a physical church building on Sunday. There, inside the church building, angels were rapidly released to supply the miracles of everyone in need!
It never occurred to them to recant from the treachery of this idea.
Now that they were forced by government to shut down their church buildings, and keep social distancing, it is expected that Nigerian church leaders should have vigorously protested on the basis that the health, prosperity and success of their followers would be extremely jeopardized without gathering to WORSHIP GOD in their SANCTIFIED church buildings and altars. Haven't they always cajoled church attendees to roll on altars at the close of service for angels to minister miracles to the humble ones?
Have they not made a habit of placing a lone chair by the altar where the impression is sold that anyone who come forward to drop some cash before touching the chair would receive a fast miracle from the invisible angel sitting on the lone chair?
In a time like this, one expected our erstwhile vociferous church leaders to show up their faces in courageous leadership, but instead they buckled and fled into hiding.
True to his convictions as a 'healing minister', Pastor Chris Oyakhilome kicked, but his fellow senior colleagues, concerted by Pastor Sam Adeyemi, threw him under the bus. No sir, Pastor Chris Oyakhilome wasn't 'PANDERING TO FEAR'. He had the courage to question a lockdown that his fellow pastors cravenly acquiesced to. Clearly, many Nigerian Christian leaders LACKED GOOD CONSCIENCE.
To save face, the church leaders latched unto Isaiah 26:20 which they massively circulated on social media:
Come, my people, enter thou into thy chambers, and shut thy doors about thee: hide thyself as it were for a little moment, until the indignation be overpast.
Nothing can be more blasphemous, seditious and speculative than for a New Testament church to take refuge in Isaiah 26:20.
How can you tell a believer whose CONSCIENCE was PURGED by the blood of Christ in order to RECEIVE the ETERNAL INHERITANCE to HIDE from INDIGNATION?
How can you tell a believer whose CONSCIENCE was already PERFECTED and SANCTIFIED to flee in terror from an unseen adversary called COVID-19?
When your fear toward God is taught by the precepts of W.H.O., the exposure of your hypocrisy is inevitable.
Our church leaders should have kept quiet, covered their faces in shame, and wept a little to show some remorse.
Sunday, 29 March 2020
WHY MEN SHOULD KNOW WHAT WOMEN WANT.
By Felix Nyerhovwo Jarikre.
'You know why I don't bother, and I think having sex with you is a drag? Because you are selfish. Next time, if you are going to take the trouble to demand for sex, please take the time to work on satisfying me. Don't deny I'm your wife, but perish the thought I exist solely for your pleasure.'
Her anger and impatience were visible. He was taken aback, caught almost speechless. His limp penis was a pitiable picture of perplexity.
Richard (not his real name) managed to blurt, 'But I'm always the one making the first moves for sex. You don't even show for one day that you want sex. All the signal you give is lack of interest in sex.'
Still vexed, Rachel (not her real name) replied, 'Yes, I'm not interested because you don't make it interesting. I come home from work, near exhaustion. I manage to cook food for you and the children. Next thing, you want sex. I give in because I don't want trouble. But all you think about is your self-satisfaction. And you expect me to clap that you are a champion racer, fast on the mark, fast to finish? Puulease! Don't you ever take me again through the drama and trauma of leaving me unsatisfied, sexually while you ease into your snoring!'
Richard's usual smugness had evaporated. His sexual appetite faded. But his eyes were pleading as if to signal his unpreparedness toward his wife's angry outbursts.
'What do you want from me?' He asked.
'Respect,' she replied. 'I'm not asking you to love me. That seems to be so hard for you. Just treat me with respect, and a sense of gratitude. I have three healthy, beautiful children for you. I work for my money. I don't need you to put clothes on my back, or make my hair. There's zero communication between us. The only time you recognize I exist in this house is when you want sex or food. I'm quitting your game; I'm not ready to play again.'
This pathetic but revealing scenario plays out in many homes today. The undercurrents of hostility, apathy and perplexity between husbands and wives is best left to imagination, rather than experienced. Some couples have even settled into a cold routine of neglect and disdain between themselves. The only times they are aroused to talk to themselves with little animation are when children's school fees or materials come up for settlement, or a child's birthday is due; or a child falls sick, and needs to be hospitalized on emergency.
Some husbands no longer find their wives sexually exciting: keeping 'side chicks' is no longer frowned upon, but treated with inevitable tolerance. Not to be outdone, some wives step out with vengeance, ready to play game with any man they are attracted to.
Some women, unable to handle or tolerate their husbands' infidelities, seethe with rage and hatred. As they play with murder in their hearts. Now and then, it's no longer strange to find the social media awash with gory tale of a woman turned berserk with her husband's unfaithfulness. Overstretched with playing the meek and patient wife, she had unexpectedly turned into a flaming object of vengeful fire. She stabbed and hacked her husband to death with a kitchen knife.
Perhaps you don't find this frightening and sad enough to raise questions. Take the case of a pastor's wife, affluent, influential, educated and beautiful, who openly divorced her famous husband because she could no longer tolerate his 'adulterous ways and sexual infidelities' with women.
The fact that divorce was supposedly frowned upon or forbidden by her religion wasn't enough to deter her. Her husband whom she had come to detest was humongously wealthy. He is a preacher of international renown. His virility was not in doubt. She had children for him. Why would a woman want to leave aside such piles of money and mammoth influence because of her husband's sexual infidelities?
Some would say it takes great courage and sense of worth to take such a rare step. They well might be right. What's undeniable: hell hath no fury like a woman scorned!
Many women are traumatized and misunderstood by their men. Some men are frightened by the idea of having to listen to the hearts of their women. It dredges up a feeling of inadequacy they are uncomfortable with. They don't think they have adequate resources to cope with what their women are demanding. Taking a flight from the possibility of having a meaningful dialogue with their women is a negative proposition they are seduced by. Have men ever thought their lives will become more enriched, strengthened and satisfying when they open up to the deep yearnings of their women? When men are not threatened by how their women feel, but rather take responsibility for bringing these feelings to a point of resolution, that can be very empowering. It's frustrating when a woman represses her feelings, or let them hang because she has no hope of fulfilment.
Life is hard and tragic because men fail to know what their women want. Life is precarious, sometimes despairing, almost meaningless because men don't consider it a worthy enterprise to understand how women feel.
Every woman wants to feel protected and secure in her relationship or marriage. And she craves to be understood by her man. For a healthy relationship, good communication comes before sex. While no normal person can question how finance can oil a romance, or run a relationship, it has never been proved practically that more money can purchase a woman's satisfaction or contentment.
What are her fears, her doubts, her guilts, her motivations? A man cannot afford to be neglectful of these emotions that weave their ways through her; or pretend they don't exist. He can't afford to think it's a waste of time trying to understand why his woman feels the way she does.
Why do some women feel marriage is a dull ache they have learned to endure? They feel unappreciated and devalued. Instead of seeing marriage as a place where they can express themselves authentically with boldness and confidence, having to walk on egg shells around their husbands becomes a safe option, unsure of what offend or please the men. Some choose to have a relationship with the husband's money if they cannot have a relationship with the men at the heart level.
For some, marriage is a slave camp; for others, marriage is a prison.
If you know you cannot upgrade your thinking to the level where you can celebrate a woman's intelligence, her sagacity, her beauty and her glory, don't get involved with her in a social relationship, talkless of a sexual one.
The wholeness between husband and wife together can only be realised by the man internalizing and communicating the woman's interests. If that's so - and there is nothing in the Bible to contradict that assertion - you have a crisis or calamity in your hand when a man pretends to ignore what his woman wants.
We must learn to place good conscience forefront in our marriages and relationships.
Conscience has to do with the development of our character.
Your conscience instead of your shape or body is the personification of your character...
An excerpt from my upcoming book, WHY MEN SHOULD KNOW WHAT WOMEN WANT.
Strictly Copyrighted. Not for sharing. π₯π₯π₯.
Your feedback wantedππ
By Felix Nyerhovwo Jarikre.
'You know why I don't bother, and I think having sex with you is a drag? Because you are selfish. Next time, if you are going to take the trouble to demand for sex, please take the time to work on satisfying me. Don't deny I'm your wife, but perish the thought I exist solely for your pleasure.'
Her anger and impatience were visible. He was taken aback, caught almost speechless. His limp penis was a pitiable picture of perplexity.
Richard (not his real name) managed to blurt, 'But I'm always the one making the first moves for sex. You don't even show for one day that you want sex. All the signal you give is lack of interest in sex.'
Still vexed, Rachel (not her real name) replied, 'Yes, I'm not interested because you don't make it interesting. I come home from work, near exhaustion. I manage to cook food for you and the children. Next thing, you want sex. I give in because I don't want trouble. But all you think about is your self-satisfaction. And you expect me to clap that you are a champion racer, fast on the mark, fast to finish? Puulease! Don't you ever take me again through the drama and trauma of leaving me unsatisfied, sexually while you ease into your snoring!'
Richard's usual smugness had evaporated. His sexual appetite faded. But his eyes were pleading as if to signal his unpreparedness toward his wife's angry outbursts.
'What do you want from me?' He asked.
'Respect,' she replied. 'I'm not asking you to love me. That seems to be so hard for you. Just treat me with respect, and a sense of gratitude. I have three healthy, beautiful children for you. I work for my money. I don't need you to put clothes on my back, or make my hair. There's zero communication between us. The only time you recognize I exist in this house is when you want sex or food. I'm quitting your game; I'm not ready to play again.'
This pathetic but revealing scenario plays out in many homes today. The undercurrents of hostility, apathy and perplexity between husbands and wives is best left to imagination, rather than experienced. Some couples have even settled into a cold routine of neglect and disdain between themselves. The only times they are aroused to talk to themselves with little animation are when children's school fees or materials come up for settlement, or a child's birthday is due; or a child falls sick, and needs to be hospitalized on emergency.
Some husbands no longer find their wives sexually exciting: keeping 'side chicks' is no longer frowned upon, but treated with inevitable tolerance. Not to be outdone, some wives step out with vengeance, ready to play game with any man they are attracted to.
Some women, unable to handle or tolerate their husbands' infidelities, seethe with rage and hatred. As they play with murder in their hearts. Now and then, it's no longer strange to find the social media awash with gory tale of a woman turned berserk with her husband's unfaithfulness. Overstretched with playing the meek and patient wife, she had unexpectedly turned into a flaming object of vengeful fire. She stabbed and hacked her husband to death with a kitchen knife.
Perhaps you don't find this frightening and sad enough to raise questions. Take the case of a pastor's wife, affluent, influential, educated and beautiful, who openly divorced her famous husband because she could no longer tolerate his 'adulterous ways and sexual infidelities' with women.
The fact that divorce was supposedly frowned upon or forbidden by her religion wasn't enough to deter her. Her husband whom she had come to detest was humongously wealthy. He is a preacher of international renown. His virility was not in doubt. She had children for him. Why would a woman want to leave aside such piles of money and mammoth influence because of her husband's sexual infidelities?
Some would say it takes great courage and sense of worth to take such a rare step. They well might be right. What's undeniable: hell hath no fury like a woman scorned!
Many women are traumatized and misunderstood by their men. Some men are frightened by the idea of having to listen to the hearts of their women. It dredges up a feeling of inadequacy they are uncomfortable with. They don't think they have adequate resources to cope with what their women are demanding. Taking a flight from the possibility of having a meaningful dialogue with their women is a negative proposition they are seduced by. Have men ever thought their lives will become more enriched, strengthened and satisfying when they open up to the deep yearnings of their women? When men are not threatened by how their women feel, but rather take responsibility for bringing these feelings to a point of resolution, that can be very empowering. It's frustrating when a woman represses her feelings, or let them hang because she has no hope of fulfilment.
Life is hard and tragic because men fail to know what their women want. Life is precarious, sometimes despairing, almost meaningless because men don't consider it a worthy enterprise to understand how women feel.
Every woman wants to feel protected and secure in her relationship or marriage. And she craves to be understood by her man. For a healthy relationship, good communication comes before sex. While no normal person can question how finance can oil a romance, or run a relationship, it has never been proved practically that more money can purchase a woman's satisfaction or contentment.
What are her fears, her doubts, her guilts, her motivations? A man cannot afford to be neglectful of these emotions that weave their ways through her; or pretend they don't exist. He can't afford to think it's a waste of time trying to understand why his woman feels the way she does.
Why do some women feel marriage is a dull ache they have learned to endure? They feel unappreciated and devalued. Instead of seeing marriage as a place where they can express themselves authentically with boldness and confidence, having to walk on egg shells around their husbands becomes a safe option, unsure of what offend or please the men. Some choose to have a relationship with the husband's money if they cannot have a relationship with the men at the heart level.
For some, marriage is a slave camp; for others, marriage is a prison.
If you know you cannot upgrade your thinking to the level where you can celebrate a woman's intelligence, her sagacity, her beauty and her glory, don't get involved with her in a social relationship, talkless of a sexual one.
The wholeness between husband and wife together can only be realised by the man internalizing and communicating the woman's interests. If that's so - and there is nothing in the Bible to contradict that assertion - you have a crisis or calamity in your hand when a man pretends to ignore what his woman wants.
We must learn to place good conscience forefront in our marriages and relationships.
Conscience has to do with the development of our character.
Your conscience instead of your shape or body is the personification of your character...
An excerpt from my upcoming book, WHY MEN SHOULD KNOW WHAT WOMEN WANT.
Strictly Copyrighted. Not for sharing. π₯π₯π₯.
Your feedback wantedππ
Saturday, 13 April 2019
SOUL, RIP OR THE PATIENT SOUL.
SOUL, RIP, or THE PATIENT SOUL.
By Felix Nyerhovwo Jarikre..
For ye have need of patience, that after ye have done the will of God, ye might receive the promise. For yet a little while, and he that shall come will come, and will not tarry. Now the just shall live by faith, but if any man draw back, my soul shall have no pleasure in him. But we are not of them who draw back unto perdition, but of them that believe to the saving of the soul.
- Hebrews 10:36-39.
Patience is the active state of anticipation that LACKS ANXIETY because the outcome is positively pre-determined.
Moses was commissioned to deliver Israel from 400-years slavery under the cruel hand of Egyptian Pharaoh. The man was warned beforehand by God that Pharaoh would stoutly resist Moses, and denounce his mission.
That despite the various punishments unleashed against Egypt, the Pharaoh would remain unyielding and arrogant. Yet ultimately, it's not a matter of 'if’ but 'when’ the Pharaoh would release Israel to vacate the land of Egypt.
That Pharaoh would release Israel from slavery was a PRE-DETERMINED outcome. There was no question about it. What Moses required was patience, having the ability to stay the course, and refusing to quit until he won.
Patience is required for your confidence to be boosted.
It takes patience to process the manifestation of your expectation.
Patience is persuasive.
Patience has resolution.
Patience is resilient.
Why should you be patient ? What are you resolutely anticipating ? What is the promise that you hope to embrace, having done the will of God ? You have confessed Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior. You have prayed and interceded for the welfare and progress of others. You have fasted, and deprived yourself of your hard-earned money to empower the weak. You have also not neglected to give part of your income to the pastor, teacher or prophet who teach you the Bible. With tenacity, you have professed the Word of God day and night, despite challenges. As you go about daily for your business or work, and living by faith to you has become like easy breathing, what is your anticipation ? Why have you chosen to do the will of God the way you do ? What do you expect to gain ? Is there a reward to all that you do ?
The Bible is precise that the reward you expect to receive is the PROMISE OF ETERNAL INHERITANCE. For you to be rewarded with the SCEPTRE OF ETERNAL INHERITANCE, it is absolutely necessary to LIVE BY FAITH, anchored with PATIENCE. So what's the PROMISE OF ETERNAL INHERITANCE ? How does it play out ? For one, the promise of eternal inheritance is not given to FLESH AND BLOOD. The promise of eternal inheritance EXCLUDES and ABOLISHES flesh and blood.
IT TAKES THE PROMISE OF ETERNAL INHERITANCE TO SAVE THE SOUL.
To appreciate the significance of this, let's look again at our heroes of faith in the Bible. Abel, Enoch, Noah, Abraham, Sarah, Isaac, Jacob, Joseph, Moses, Rahab, Gideon, Barak, Samson, Samuel, David, Daniel, and the prophets etc, these all had obtained a good report through faith, but they did not receive the PROMISE OF ETERNAL INHERITANCE THAT CAN SAVE THE SOUL !!
That means all the elders from Abel to John the Baptist,THEIR SOULS WERE NOT SAVED BEFORE THEY ALL WENT TO THEIR GRAVES.
By retaining the FLESH AND BLOOD nature, their souls managed to shy away from salvation until they all died in faith.
With this as background, Jesus preached: ‘ Come unto me, all ye that labour and heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and YE SHALL FIND REST UNTO YOUR SOULS.’
Then Jesus allowed his flesh and blood incarnation to be destroyed to PERFECT THE HUMAN SOUL. ( At this juncture, take note: THAT A HUMAN SOUL IS PERFECTED DOES NOT MEAN THE SOUL IS SAVED.) The human soul is perfected for the soul to live by faith without limitations, and exercise patience. You require faith and patience to make your soul RIP. ( REST IN PEACE.)
Indeed, by offering his body ONCE FOR ALL, Jesus banished and ostracized flesh and blood from contestation. This was done because flesh and blood, a counterfeiter, is hostile to faith. Flesh and blood is not the soul. FAITH IS USED TO SAVE THE SOUL !!
Many souls, far from salvation, are trying to use faith to get material riches like cars, houses, money etc. Sad to say, but their struggle and frustration will never end unless their belief-system is altered.
FAITH IS NOT GIVEN TO CATER FOR FLESH AND BLOOD.
Because many of us are brought up on a relentless diet of false teachings that faith caters for flesh and blood, the more we pray and profess, the more we are diverted from God.
FAITH IS ALL ABOUT SELF-DENIAL OR SELF-DEPRIVATION. Faith gives material things. Faith does not get material things !! Despite all the hype invested on faith by false teachers, LIVING BY FAITH IS A PAINFUL PROCESS. Yet it is not lazy or irresolute. ( Indeed living by faith is not folding your arms, waiting for manna to fall from heaven. That ain't gonna happen !! So someone must get a job or start a business at whatever level.) Living by faith is the phase where you pray for the healing of others, and they get healed: but you pray for yourself, and nothing happens, or all you hear from heaven is: 'My grace is sufficient for you.’ So it takes a quick dash to the nearest pharmacy to be rescued from prolonged affliction.
Because living by faith is a CONVERSION phase in all ramifications, your soul is not permitted to feel inadequate or suffer lack. With the removal of flesh and blood from contention or reckoning, every limitation or restraint is removed also from what you can profess to satisfy your heart's desire. By conversion, it means you turn every challenge into a resolution with your mouth - THE GATEWAY OF LIFE.
Psalm 81:10: 'Open thy mouth wide, and I will fill it.’
Take a young woman or man without husband or wife, pressed with sexual urge. They can open their mouth without shame, and speak into the air: ‘ I'm sexually satisfied and satiated. I'm separated from lust.’ Just saying that meaningfully can make them whole and refreshed without doing anything crazy.
By the way, what is soul ? The soul is the PERFECTED HUMAN SPIRIT MADE IN THE IMAGE OF GOD BY THE BLOOD OF SPRINKLING.
Your soul as a personality is essentially the INFORMATION that is stored and retrieved from HUMAN MEMORY to facilitate your performance. And only you have access to your memory. You can delete or upload whatever information to enhance your faith-performance.
Like you must prevent hackers on the prowl to confuse your memory, flesh and blood must be enslaved, restrained and kept silent. Why ? The information available to flesh and blood is not valid or relevant to man's spiritual productivity. The speculations and opinions of flesh and blood must be banished from having a hearing before the soul.
Flesh and blood indeed should not be given VOCAL EXPRESSION in the presence of its master, the soul.
Christianity that promotes the DUALITY OF FLESH AND SPIRIT is a doggerel that must be smashed.
To be continued.
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